Why Do We Lie ? 

Can anyone honestly say that they have not told a lie even once  in their entire life? I guess not, everyone lies at some point in their life.

Well, personally I think telling a lie can sometimes be good and sometimes bad depending on what your intentions are. We lie mostly because we need to get out of some tricky situation like cancelling a dinner plan or saying that you are sleeping when you are not. Such lies are just small things said to prevent a difficult situation while not hurting anyone so we can call them harmless lies but be careful such lies can result in breaking the trust in your relationships when you get caught.

But generally on a daily life people lie, to avoid hurting someone, getting around conflict, making things more suitable and avoid being judged. All these reasons might not be completely justified but still it seems harmless compared to lying to someone to hurt them or cheat them.

Sometime even white lies(as some people call them) can lead to a very bad consequences.

I think the best way to start being honest is to first understand why we lie and stop making excuses about everything in life. You know the saying "good things start from home" or something like that, well so you should also start saying truth to yourself first and then to your family and slowly build the strength and confidence to be able to always accept and say the truth.

One last thought: once you tell one lie, it seems like it starts a chain and slowly you end up telling several more lies just because of that one lie.  Telling the truth can be such a relief.

Honesty is the best policy

You are right brother honesty is the best policy,i think no need to lie telling the truth is the best way to help any one even the truth some times hurt but hurt you a minute better than made your whole life full of sadness ,thanks to you for this good topic.

Hello the Emperor,

Hello Sara,

Before nice comment sister sara and than so wise and logical thoughts that you report or write here Emperor to us as usual....

I can say I am in front of one of many pearls of your advices and wisdoms brother!!!

Surely, the Honesty is the best policy ..this should be but Who can applicate it absolutely in these days of lies and hurt..of cheat...of blind imitation of the negative side of modernism without trying to see even slightly beyond the horizon or even forward ........to see then the truth of the real best beautifull life...the life of morals and values, unfortunately ovrerlooked by many of us ...

Despite all this, the Good still exist and the way of honesty will never give up.......

This is our thin light that gives us Hope ....Hope to take The Honesty our guide and try step by step to learn oueselves How to be honest even with millions of liars around us.....This is a Hope ...a hope to reach the iceberg one day ...the iceberg of the value leading us toward the path of Happiness and Peace ...peace with ourselves first and than with all mankind.......

The way could be tricky as you had spoken Emperor about hard situations that oblige us or make us in confusion: Lie or no?

But all these difficulties should not be forever an excuse to lie or un argument to hide what is not a shame to not say or not write.......

Thank you twice brother.

You have already given the solution of this comman  Human  character with surely the difference of degree in its application ......

Hoping that we could at the height of this advice and so brave to say finally: No..Stop to any nonsense that makes our life as a vain complicated game or as a puppet on the podium of a theatre.......

Well continuation

telling lie a person starts to kill friendship, love, respect....and i think it can`t have good side, coz it reminds foggy wheather when you know where the truth is, but can`t see it....and when this fog disappears it may hurt so deep and bring too much pain....

Thank you very much sisters for your wonderful comments.As you have siad sister sara the truth can sometimes be harmful but we should say it instead of building our relationships on lies which would lead later to hazardous consquences.I completely agree with you sister Meriam,nowadays most people don't comply with honesty and they justify their lies by saying *it is just a white lie*.There is no white lie or black lie,there is only lying or honesty...just like sister elmeria siad above telling lies kill all kind of relationships and when the lie is discovered all hell is going to break loose.So my advice to you guys tell the truth and let the chips fall where they may.

I agree with Elmira "telling lie a person starts to kill friendship, love..." I don't want to know this kind of people, they make me so sad when I discovered that they lie to me.

"let the chips fall where they may." - That is very funny; I don't know the reasons but brilliant.

There are 3 kinds of lies that you have to consider whether lying is pure good/bad.

1. Lies so big and blatant that noboby dares to point out. Since it is accepted by most people, if you question it, you are likely to be laughed at, scorned to, or shunned away like a mental patient. Of course, people who dare to attempt such act, if they themselves are not insane, are likely to be powerful enough that there are protective measures to prevent the truth from leaking. Do you dare to be the one?

2. Lies that are told to prevent catastrophic effects that are much greater than the effects of the consequences of the lies being exposed. I do not feel comfortable giving examples so use your imagination. In case such lies are exposed along with the underlying reason, will you have the heart to make any moral judgements?

3. Lies that must be tell for preservation for things of personal importance. Everyone has necessities and values he/she depends on or treasures, and the scales of such values are naturally subjective in nature. When such lies are exposed, does it not depend on how persuasive the justification of the lies appears to the audience? There are many, too many skillful liers all around the world. I personally are numb to it since I am exposed to them constantly.

What I cannot stand, is for the kind of liers who ruthlessly defend their lies to the degree of unspeakable cruelty, while telling, or forcing everyone else to be honest all the time, applying it as the leverage against any insubordination. Since everyone has his/her own private secret, and it is getting easier and easier to collect such private details, exposing an individual's lie become the greatest weapon against the odd of a bigger lie being exposed, or against any act of defiance.

I probably will have to learn to compromise and submit to such people/groups. I still hold a glimmer of hope, but the heartache is emotionally excrutiating.

I have spoken too much. Hope it brings a tiny value.